Nobody would have guessed that Tony was unhappy at his well-paying job. One of the directors in his firm, Tony, has built one of the most successful affiliate marketing companies on the internet, promoting top brands such as Verde Casino. In the eyes of the outside world, he is one of the best individuals to have graced the affiliate marketing industry. However, deep down, Tony feels dissatisfied and stuck in a career that doesn't fulfill his needs. If you are like Tony, you don't need to stress out. There are deep underlying problems, as highlighted below that you must fix to relive your life again.
You Lack Self-Awareness
The vast majority of people in the employment world lack self-awareness. When asked, 'What are you willing to sacrifice? What is your main priority in life and your career?' or 'When you are out of this workplace and look back, what do you hope to have achieved and left behind?'
Most of the time, the responses you get are blank stares! Why? Because people don't know themselves deeply or well enough. According to a report published online, people hardly have time to properly reflect and know their inner selves. We are all too busy to spare a few minutes a day or even an hour per week to look at ourselves. From experience, the experience of knowing oneself deeply is too scary to handle. Whatever the reason, if you don't know who you are, your true inner self, and your principles, will you be able to lead a life that aligns with your values, needs, and interests?
You Don’t Have to Be Right All the Time
There are cases where people have self-awareness and know exactly what they want. However, they make themselves wrong about it. They'll occasionally be heard saying, 'Yeah, I'm willing to change, but I don't think I'm right to feel this way.' Or, 'I'm fortunate to have this job, so I shouldn't ruin it.' In some cases, you'll occasionally hear people say, 'I have so much, I should feel blessed and not complain about it.'
Overall, so many people (especially women) second-guess the validity of their feelings. The result is they repress their deepest longing because they strongly believe it is wrong to have them. Until you find a way to make yourself 'right' about how you feel and why you feel that way, you will never find joy or peace.
You Don’t Have the Courage to Quit
Many people who would want to quit and take on better roles have lost the courage to take the BOLD action. Many people have been made to believe that life should be a straight path. That everything should be easy as long as you work hard and stay focused. Where did this idea come from? Making change has never been easy! However, despite the challenges, many people will realize that it's always worth it at the end of the day, especially if you hate your current role or work environment. It requires courage, grit, and dedication to establish a lasting change. Many people have done it before, and you can also do it. But you must connect to your internal power and take the bold steps.
You Prioritize Other People’s Needs and Outer Rewards Over Yourself
If this is the type of person you are, then continue reading this section. 'Are you stuck in a career that sucks the joy and life out of you because you believe it's the only one that will pay your bill?' If the answer is yes, and you only focus on money, then you should start thinking otherwise.
How much money do you really need? Is the current state of your life so important that you are willing to trade your happiness, health, well-being, and relationship? Of course, you must pay your bills and satisfy other financial obligations; we’re not hinting otherwise.
What we’re trying to recommend is that you rethink and revisit how you live and look at your priority list. Meeting your financial obligations doesn't really mean you should be unhappy, angry, and sick for the better part of your life. If this is how the job makes you feel, then it is not worth it.
You’ve Been Made to Think Pursuing Your Passion Equals Being Broke
There's a myth that if you decide to pursue what you love doing, you won't get rewarded. Another version of this myth is that you must work hard, even if you don't like the job, to get rewarded. Many people look at those who love their work and hate them. They say, 'Yeah, they are doing what they want to, but that is because they were (born into it, lucky, privileged, inherited cash), and I cannot do that because…'
People tend to justify what they love doing with a gazillion and one reasons, even when they know deep down they are not happy in their current role. They know switching to, say, painting will be more satisfying and rewarding, but they still choose not to pursue it. If you can resonate with any of these points, there is only one choice you can make – stay put and suck in misery, or take the bold step and change. It won't be easy, but in the long run, you will appreciate it!